#BreakThings: Toxic Gratitude

10.15.20

Sometimes even good things are difficult.

A job you love can still be stressful. Raising children, no matter how loved, can still be taxing. Relationships, even the best ones, have bad times. Recognizing that doesn’t mean that you’re ungrateful or thankless.

That’s why it’s so unhelpful when you share your concerns with other people and they reframe them in the messaging of toxic gratitude.

“You should be grateful you have a job.”

“Think of all the people who can’t have children.”

“Well, you could be alone during isolation.”

Being grateful does not mean that life is without challenges. You’re allowed to feel your feelings. Do the best you can to count your blessings during these tough times. But you’re allowed to acknowledge the darkness when the light that casts shadows.

The Wildlife Photographer of the Year photos are always worth a look. They showcase the beauty, the grandeur and the fun of nature. This year’s choices show some incredible work in their snaps.

With 19 days until the election, we could all use a break. The trouble is that the topic is so pervasive that it’s hard to find one. This article from The Lily discusses how to talk to the people you love about giving you (and themselves) a rest for politics.

A new coffee mug always cheers me up. I make my morning beverage, and sipping it from a charming new mug always makes it taste better. I chose a few fabulous coffee cups, including these lovely floral monogram cups, and put them in a widget.

I’ve listened to the In the Dark podcast, about the trials of Curtis Flowers, so I was thrilled when he was released and the charges against him dropped. It’s not usually an uplifting listen, but their latest episode, talking to Curtis about his newly restored freedom, made me feel good.

I love Trader Joe’s Beer Bread Mix. Mix in your own beer and bake up a loaf to serve with your fall soups and stews. I found this Cheddar Jalapeno Beer Bread recipe to spice it up a bit. Sounds like the perfect thing for a meatloaf sandwich.

It’s funny because it’s true.

Take a moment for yourself today. I’ll see you back here tomorrow.