#BreakThings: Getting Settled

12.08.20

Have you ever had that feeling like you’re an impostor in your life? Like something about the life you’re living doesn’t feel entirely yours?

This is a feeling that I have struggled mightily with over the past few years. And I think I’ve finally put my finger on why.

I never settled in Spokane. I moved there for law school temporarily. I bought a home that I always intended to sell because it was a good financial investment. But then I met my partner, and so I stayed, every day praying that soon I would get to move.

Back to D.C.. Back to Montana. Just to a place where I could feel whole.

Over the years, I’ve tried intermittently to make Spokane my home. But most of the friends that I made have moved away. A stable job has never panned out. And my daily life just feels a bit empty, like a transition period that never seems to end.

Being in Montana for work for the next five months, doesn’t make solving these shaky feelings any simpler. But I hope I can find some stability doing the work I love in the place that I love.

Real Simple breaks down why we need casual friends. Because while your acquaintances may be your weakest ties, they may also have the biggest impact on your quality of life. (The question is: how do you make casual friends in the pandemic?)

I have a few gaps in my winter wardrobe — a few sweaters that need to be replaced, some jeans that fit before the pandemic (I swear). Luckily, Old Navy has the pieces I need to fill them. Oh, and don’t miss this midi wrap dress that is perfect for work, cocktail hour or just lounging in your office.

Need DIY manicure tips? Don’t we all? Glamour has the advice you need to make your mani last longer and look better.

This article is an oldie but goodie. Because a divorce attorney is the exact person you need to help you keep your marriage together. They’ve seen it all. They know where the pitfalls are. And they know which fixes they’ve seen save marriages.

Even when the holidays are supposed to be low-key, somehow they’re still stressful. I think it’s all the pressure to make your feelings and holidays conform to the perfect ideal. Luckily, The Everygirl has some thoughts on how to avoid feeling emotionally drained this holiday season.

I’ve watched this video 50x. It still gets me every time.

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