#BreakThings: Oops, I Did It Again

03.04.21

Today is my first day off of work in months. So I took a drive down to Butte to visit my parents.

On the way, I got to thinking about what a stabilizing and consistent presence my blog, this newsletter, and all of you have been. Even when things were way off the rails in my personal life, my professional life, and with my mental health, I always had this.

So I wanted to take a minute on this quiet afternoon (with the exception of the sound of four dogs snoring), to thank all of you for coming by every day. For being here. For interacting with this content. For telling your interns, and your friends, and your family about it.

As for the title, I posted yesterday and sent it only to the paid subscribers. My fault. So here is a link to that post.

And now, for the #BreakThings.

Need to pull your life back together? Medium offers 12 small changes to help you out.

My favorite? Stop wasting time on things that don’t add to your life. Essentially, don’t be guilted or pressured into dinners you don’t want attend, activities you don’t want to do, or spending time with people you don’t want to see. So important. So tough to do.

The title of Jessica Valenti’s All in Her Head newsletter drove the point home perfectly: How do we make men stop touching us?

I don’t know the answer. I wish I did. But at some point, we have to make them understand that it’s not that we’re not expressing how uncomfortable we are, it’s that they don’t care. They’re not taught to care.

Instead, they’re taught that we’re playing hard to get. That it’s okay as long as they didn’t mean any harm. But it’s not.

So maybe that’s where we start, we stop teaching men that women play coy, and that the more we resist, the harder they should try.

H&M sells wonderful swimwear. It’s stylish, fairly well-made and well-priced. This hot pink one piece if risqué in the best way. Want something stylish but more low-key? This scallop-edge suit is sublime.

The best styles tend to sell out quickly, so now is the perfect time to shop for summer.

Who is Rae Dunn, and why do I see her coffee mugs everywhere? For the uninitiated, Vice invites you into the ‘cult of Dunn’ and shows you how one company has taken over middle-class kitsch.

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