#BreakThings: The Waiting Game

01.26.21

When Kyle and I got engaged, we made an agreement that we would be living in Montana by my 40th birthday. Given my husband’s job and the fact that we had just purchased a home, it was a good compromise.

Over the past decade, my home state has become a popular place to move, even for people who have never even visited before. The changing demographics are creating a lot of new challenges, including a 46% increase home prices over just one year in the city of Bozeman. And all of the changes make me even more anxious to return.

The loss of personal autonomy is the thing I struggle with most about being married. I spent most of my adult life answering to no one but myself, so considering the feelings and needs of another person isn’t my default setting. But I made a promise to wait until 2022, and I am honor-bound to keep it.

Even if I have a calendar in my office that literally counts down the days.

Subtlety isn’t my strong suit.

Physical contact is essential to maintaining our mental health. During the pandemic many Americans, especially seniors, have gone without hugs for far too long. This Guardian article discusses the damage being done and what we can do to minimize the long term effects.

Work-life balance is a constant struggle for working women. Whether you’re single, married, and/or a parent, it’s difficult to keep the halves of your life in equilibrium. Clever has five tips to help you improve your juggling act.

This BR shirt is my favorite purchase of 2021 so far. The dots, the balloon sleeve, and the tie neck are right in my wheel house. It would be an excellent choice for the office or for a Zoom call.

Aubrey Gordon is the author of “Your Fat Friend,” essays on the discrimination and hate overweight women face. In this recent WaPost interview, she discusses fat phobia, her new book, and how we could all use a little bit of kindness.

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